don't wish your life away


Well, I have finished producing my play. The performance was this past Friday night and it was everything I could have imagined and more. It only further ignited my passion for writing, directing, leadership, art... Every single facet of this production process has brought me a whole new renewal and appreciation of joy. I feel so at peace with myself and what I am capable of. What a more perfect way to go off to Spain for 6 weeks…

I’m so excited to be back blogging because I leave for Spain in about a week and I think my blog is going to be better than ever. New experiences, new forms of happiness, and well...


I can’t wait to come back and hopefully be even better at Spanish than I ever have been. But man, my summer is flying by. Once I get back from that, it’s a month of working as a hostess at Committee in Boston, a month of working out and getting into shape, and a month of hanging with my favorite people at home. Then, I’m off to start my sophomore year of college.

There are so many incredible things I am looking forward to, but at such an amazing time in my life, my dad’s voice is echoing in the back of my mind: “Don’t wish your life away,” he would always tell me. Well, technically it’s my grandmother’s voice echoing through my dad. I never got to meet her, but I really do feel like I carry a piece of her with me every day. Her name was Alice Emma Charleston, and I’m Allyson (though I don’t let anyone but my parents call me that) Emma Charleston. It’s funny how you can never meet someone but feel like you know them.

This past weekend I got to spend the holiday with one of my best friends and her entire family. I had met her grandparents before, but this weekend I really got to know them. I always feel awkward around people’s grandparents because I never really had my own, so I don’t know how to act. But, these people were the sweetest, funniest, most loving people.

Her grandmother has dementia and so you can’t have deep, lengthy conversations with her but she is one of the most beautiful souls I have had the pleasure of meeting. One night, my best friend, her mother (who I am also really close to), her sister, and her grandmother and I just all laid in bed laughing at the most ridiculous things for almost an hour.

Her grandmother kept saying, “I will never forget this night.”

This weekend was epic in so many ways: starting with my play and ending with my friend’s grandma. Not only was that moment, lying in bed uncontrollably giggling, so beautiful, but it made me think about a lot of things.

First, while I wish I had gotten a chance to meet my own grandmother, I know that there is a part of her in every single person she touched--especially my father. So, I am thankful that she is a part of my life, while she isn’t actually here.

Second, it made me appreciate life in a whole new way--we can’t predict how our life will turn out. I’m sure my best friend’s grandma didn’t expect to have dementia, but yet she is so happy and she still touches everyone she meets. She made such an impact on me in such a short weekend and yet she will never even know it.

When you grow old, nothing you accomplished, nothing you earned or worked for is going to be as important as who you are at every present moment. So, I will leave you with two things:

ONE... cherish every single moment you have. It’s actually really difficult. If it were easy, people wouldn’t have to remind each other to do it. But, just take a moment to breathe in deeply, look around where you are and who you’re with, and feel joy.

TWO... our life will only be as important as who we are at every second of every day. Nothing is as important as the present, so don’t let it pass you by without squeezing the most out of every moment.

۞ ally ۞

#life #deep

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